How often do we Judge Others?
It takes less than a second for us to judge others. This refereeing happens to be so swiftly that we never understood the process aptly. Imagine walking into a fast-food restaurant and you see a 150 kg man in front of you. What will be your immediate thoughts? Maybe he shouldn’t be eating over here, he is too overweight. Ahh….!! Hang on. You don’t know the complete story, Maybe he was on a diet for the last couple of months and today was his cheat day, there can be numerous possibilities but never mind we all are in this trap. As soon as we see someone or something we form an opinion more or less objectively or authoritatively.
Bubbles
Just after we notice someone we categorize them among the three bubbles High, Same and Low. High goes with people you admired (it can be on any basis like social, economical, intellectual, or god knows). Low is just the vice-versa of it. The Same bubble is the pseudo one, it tries to hop in either of the former bubbles with time. We try to imitate things from high bubble people and show them off in front of low bubble people, and friends that’s where the so-called peer thing comes into the picture. People follow stupid trends on social media to not get judged by others, also to some extent they find bitching to be the best way to fit in conversation with others. Ahhh…...Reality. To tackle these problems we should know that the first impression thing is complete shit and no one is happy anywhere. Instead of the three bubbles talked above, there should be a single bubble of “I don't know”, <pause> from now-onwards tell yourself whenever you mark someone that I know nothing about them rather than being judgemental. This practice will help us in delaying the process of perception making, and that’s how we win. Now let’s go into some depth…
The Judgement Time
Why we assess others? I concluded to these points and somehow or other we all have done that.
- We may not know the person very well.
- That person has somehow invaded or threatened how we perceive ourselves.
- We can’t get along with the person’s beliefs or behavior.
- Sometimes we do it to feel better.
Admire don't follow, Learn don't abandon
No matter how glamorous, impressive, commanding, rich, famous people are they too have flaws in them and no matter how depressing, poor, regretful people are, there is always something to learn from them. Every human being on this planet is so much more than what meets the eyes. We should always admire the former and learn from the latter ones.
What we all people are missing out on is compassion. An understanding was never a sign of weakness. It is the way to break the illusional bubbles. Instead of judging someone for what he/she has done till now, we will have to try to understand them, things will become easy if we will try to stand in their shoes. Yas!
Also a big thanks to social media, now this situation has become more critical. People are trying to show empathy virtually which at a certain point does not make any sense. Others don’t know their situation, thinking process or can say they know nothing about the ones, so showing them sympathy, empathy and what not is just a mere waste of time.
To judge a person by their weakest attribute is like judging the power of the ocean by one single wave. -Elvis Presley
Till Next Time…….
